I've been considering divorce for probably 4 years now. Two things have held me back from doing so. 1.) we have 3 kids 2.) with 3 kids its financially challenging:(
Our mortgage to our home is ridicuously cheap! Tax, insurance, etc., its cheaper than a 2 bedroom apartment and its a large house at that!
So, this is what I'm considering as an option to the spouse so I can at least be legally freed and yet we can raise our kids together till they are off to college or till they 'get' it for right now the kids are just very sensitive towards divorce and living in two different homes.
I want to suggest a divorce and have us still BOTH live in the same house! Is it possible? I think it could in our position. We are able to be cordial and have been seriously just two people living under the same roof, we even sleep in different rooms, but nothing more for many years now. We can sell the house later. At least the kids will be able to live together and be raised in their home together.
Is this possible, legally? Would it relieve some stress, possibly. I'm wondering though how the spouse would take it? Accept or say forget it:(
Your thoughts would be helpful. Thank you:)
Registered: 07-19-2020 Location: St. Louis MO
posted on 07-21-2020 at 13:21
Divorced and living with ex-wife
Lived this one myself. Finances and kids prevented a change like divorce and settlement, just no go on that stuff that made any sense to either of us.
Long and short of it, we stayed married until the kids were grown. After they left, we kept the house in a partnership agreement. She lived in it, I rented an apartment until I came up with the down on another property for me.
We saw other people before the divorce, agreed on it together, but never brought our dates home. Had to explain it to several girlfriends, not as bad as it sounds.
It turned out well. Stopped arguing about stupid issues that were emotionally charged because we wanted to beat each other to death over a marriage that was on the rocks. Once we let go of the guilt and hurt, we eventually became friends again. Funny, we almost married again, but at the crucial moment we both stepped back, shook our heads and said NAWWW. Smiled. Remained close.
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