Divorce is a finalization of a dissolved marriage. No one can divorce every month. But it sounds much like the two of you are about as far from a healthy marriage as a couple can be. You live separately and haven't had any semblance of normalcy in the relationship.
You want help? Here it is: send her jewelry back and use a postal service that requires her to sign for the package. Have the package insured.
Move on with your life. If herpes is the worst you got from her, consider yourself lucky.
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