Your comprehensive resource for Divorce.
 Upcoming Events
 Dating News

Upcoming FREE Dating Seminars

To Be Determined

 Divorce Topics  

Child Support
Coping Strategies
Child Custody
Dating Again
Deciding To
Legal Issues
Separation Before Divorce
Children of Divorce

 Divorce Articles  

After Divorce
Child Support
Computer Addiction
Cope with Divorce
Costs of Divorce
Divorce and Children
Divorce Mistakes
Divorce Overseas
Domestic Abuse
Foreign Divorce
Help Kids with Divorce
Legal Separation
Marital Affairs
Marriage Problems
No Child Support
Sexless Marriage
Single Parents
Step Families
Tell Kids about Divorce
Types of Divorce
Visitation Rights

 Divorce Law  

Alabama Divorce Laws
Alaska Divorce Laws
Arizona Divorce Laws
Arkansas Divorce Laws
California Divorce Laws
Colorado Divorce Laws
Connecticut Divorce Laws
Delaware Divorce Laws
Florida Divorce Laws
Georgia Divorce Laws
Hawaii Divorce Laws
Idaho Divorce Laws
Illinois Divorce Laws
Indiana Divorce Laws
Iowa Divorce Laws
Kansas Divorce Laws
Kentucky Divorce Laws
Louisiana Divorce Laws
Maine Divorce Laws
Maryland Divorce Laws
Massachusetts Divorce Laws
Michigan Divorce Laws
Minnesota Divorce Laws
Mississippi Divorce Laws
Missouri Divorce Laws
Montana Divorce Laws
Nebraska Divorce Laws
Nevada Divorce Laws
New Hampshire Divorce Laws
New Jersey Divorce Laws
New Mexico Divorce Laws
New York Divorce Laws
North Carolina Divorce Laws
North Dakota Divorce Laws
Ohio Divorce Laws
Oklahoma Divorce Laws
Oregon Divorce Laws
Pennsylvania Divorce Laws
Rhode Island Divorce Laws
South Carolina Divorce Laws
South Dakota Divorce Laws
Tenessee Divorce Laws
Texas Divorce Laws
Utah Divorce Laws
Vermont Divorce Laws
Virginia Divorce Laws
Washington Divorce Laws
West Virginia Divorce Laws
Wisconsin Divorce Laws
Wyoming Divorce Laws


 Welcome to 1st Divorce!

Printable Version | Send to Friend
Subscribe | Add to Favorites
Author: softsoap Subject: Want to be more than friends...

Posts: 1
Registered: 03-16-2012

posted on 03-16-2012 at 12:42 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Want to be more than friends...

I am divorced for over two years now. I recently reconnected with a friend whom I have known for over 20 years. He's a wonderful man, great father and just a beautiful person. We have a mutual respect and understanding of one another. He had spoken a few times and he asked me to go out on a date with him. Friday night came and we had an amazing time!!! We talked, we danced, we kissed, we hugged, we laughed, we talked to other people separately and together. We could not believe how easy it was to be together. That night we slept together and it was great... no pressure, comfortable, fun... He's a great person! He ended up confessing that he had such a huge crush on me when we were younger, which was adorable!!! He told me about a conversation he had had earlier in the week with his cousin. His cousin asked what was going on with us and he said, he didn't know... nothing was happening right now, but if something did happen that would be cool. If nothing happened that would be cool too bc we just adore each other so much! And I agreed. I stayed the night and had to leave early to get my kids. The next day he called me when he woke up and then we had a few cutsie text messages back and forth.

Anyway, he is such a great guy and I'm happy to have him in my life either way. However, I am very interested so it does put different spin on things. I want to show him that I am interested without seeming too much or overwhelming. A friend of mine told me to let him do the chasing. While I agree with that I don't see why it's wrong to show interest... how would he know. At the same time, I feel like he's not reaching out to me at much as I would like for him to.

2 days after our last encounter I sent him a cute text message while he was at work to call me when he was on a break bc I wanted to hear his voice. He works at night, so our conversations usually occur then. Unfortunately, he was busier than normal so I was dead asleep by the time he called. He told me to just call him in the morning. After taking the kids to school I finally called, but then he was sleeping! LOL! He texted me when he got up and we did that for a little while.

He hasn't asked me when we're going to see each other again, so I'm assuming he doesn't want to, but how would I know if I didn't ask? I happen to be kid free this Saturday, which is a rarity, bc a prior engagement was cancelled. I was thinking about asking him out. Is that too much? Am I being too much? with our schedules... kids and his job, we'll never see each other, so when the opportunity arises I'd like to see him.

What do you think? I've been out of the loop for over 10 years so I could use some advice.

View User's Profile E-Mail User View All Replies By LBJM (only searches replies by default, for topics please run another search) U2U Member

Posts: 71
Registered: 04-12-2013

posted on 04-23-2013 at 12:47 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
go for it

I am not an expert in the his area by any means, but in my experience, I have seen way too many people give up solid, quality relationships because they were too scared to mess things up or go too fast.

If things are meant to be with him, he will be happy that you are asking him out and showing interest. By showing that you are interested, he may realize more feelings for you than he originally thought were there.

I ahve experienced a lot of friends miss out on good relationships because of hesitating too long to share how they felt, so dont make the same mistake!
View User's Profile E-Mail User View All Replies By Chris_23 (only searches replies by default, for topics please run another search) U2U Member

Posts: 0
Registered: 11-18-2016

posted on 11-18-2016 at 05:50 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
bad experience

I do not believe in love between friends, I have a bad experience(((
View User's Profile E-Mail User View All Replies By Andro (only searches replies by default, for topics please run another search) U2U Member

Posts: 6
Registered: 06-15-2020
Location: Phoenix, Arizona

posted on 08-18-2020 at 15:34 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Talk to your man

I think you're putting too much thought into it and not enough communication. Just tell the fella how you feel. You don't need to be overwhelming, just talk about the changes in your relationship.

Really, maybe you don't want to know how he feels because you're afraid it won't be the same as how you feel. But you'll never know unless you talk to him.

Give him the benefit of the doubt and bring it up. It may be the thing you do that starts a long, loving relationship.

Good luck.
View User's Profile E-Mail User View All Replies By softsoap (only searches replies by default, for topics please run another search) U2U Member
Printable Version | Send to Friend
Subscribe | Add to Favorites

Processed in 0.013 seconds, 11 queries

Divorce reserves the right to block, delete, or edit any and all posts. The Moderator has sole discretion on the content of this site. Anyone who posts accepts these terms, and waives any and all rights to bring any legal action against Divorce. If you disapprove of any of the above, do not use, read, or post in Divorce

 User Functions  


Don't have an account yet? Sign up as a New User
User Control Panel

 Forum Posts  

Order: New Views Posts
Latest Forum Posts

 Divorce Lawyers  

Alabama Lawyers
Alaska Lawyers
Arizona Lawyers
Arkansas Lawyers
California Lawyers
Colorado Lawyers
Connecticut Lawyers
Delaware Lawyers
Florida Lawyers
Georgia Lawyers
Hawaii Lawyers
Idaho Lawyers
Illinois Lawyers
Indiana Lawyers
Iowa Lawyers
Kansas Lawyers
Kentucky Lawyers
Louisianna Lawyers
Maine Lawyers
Maryland Lawyers
Massachusetts Lawyers
Michigan Lawyers
Minnesota Lawyers
Mississippi Lawyers
Missouri Lawyers
Montana Lawyers
Nebraska Lawyers
Nevada Lawyers
New Hampshire Lawyers
New Jersey Lawyers
New Mexico Lawyers
New York Lawyers
North Carolina Lawyers
North Dakota Lawyers
Ohio Lawyers
Oklahoma Lawyers
Oregon Lawyers
Pennsylvania Lawyers
Rhode Island Lawyers
South Carolina Lawyers
South Dakota Lawyers
Tennessee Lawyers
Texas Lawyers
Utah Lawyers
Vermont Lawyers
Virginia Lawyers
Washington Lawyers
West Virginia Lawyers
Wisconsin Lawyers

 Women's Profiles