I am divorced for over two years now. I recently reconnected with a friend whom I have known for over 20 years. He's a wonderful man, great father and just a beautiful person. We have a mutual respect and understanding of one another. He had spoken a few times and he asked me to go out on a date with him. Friday night came and we had an amazing time!!! We talked, we danced, we kissed, we hugged, we laughed, we talked to other people separately and together. We could not believe how easy it was to be together. That night we slept together and it was great... no pressure, comfortable, fun... He's a great person! He ended up confessing that he had such a huge crush on me when we were younger, which was adorable!!! He told me about a conversation he had had earlier in the week with his cousin. His cousin asked what was going on with us and he said, he didn't know... nothing was happening right now, but if something did happen that would be cool. If nothing happened that would be cool too bc we just adore each other so much! And I agreed. I stayed the night and had to leave early to get my kids. The next day he called me when he woke up and then we had a few cutsie text messages back and forth.
Anyway, he is such a great guy and I'm happy to have him in my life either way. However, I am very interested so it does put different spin on things. I want to show him that I am interested without seeming too much or overwhelming. A friend of mine told me to let him do the chasing. While I agree with that I don't see why it's wrong to show interest... how would he know. At the same time, I feel like he's not reaching out to me at much as I would like for him to.
2 days after our last encounter I sent him a cute text message while he was at work to call me when he was on a break bc I wanted to hear his voice. He works at night, so our conversations usually occur then. Unfortunately, he was busier than normal so I was dead asleep by the time he called. He told me to just call him in the morning. After taking the kids to school I finally called, but then he was sleeping! LOL! He texted me when he got up and we did that for a little while.
He hasn't asked me when we're going to see each other again, so I'm assuming he doesn't want to, but how would I know if I didn't ask? I happen to be kid free this Saturday, which is a rarity, bc a prior engagement was cancelled. I was thinking about asking him out. Is that too much? Am I being too much? with our schedules... kids and his job, we'll never see each other, so when the opportunity arises I'd like to see him.
What do you think? I've been out of the loop for over 10 years so I could use some advice.
I am not an expert in the his area by any means, but in my experience, I have seen way too many people give up solid, quality relationships because they were too scared to mess things up or go too fast.
If things are meant to be with him, he will be happy that you are asking him out and showing interest. By showing that you are interested, he may realize more feelings for you than he originally thought were there.
I ahve experienced a lot of friends miss out on good relationships because of hesitating too long to share how they felt, so dont make the same mistake!
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