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Author: sheena_junglequeen Subject: Never done this before

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posted on 03-19-2010 at 15:56 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
new single parent

I have recently been put into a situation where I am taking care of my two kids, 6 and 10, by myself for the first time, I am becoming overwhelmed and wonder if I am even doing everything right for my kids and for myself.
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posted on 10-25-2010 at 09:57 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator

I am sorry to hear that is happening to you but you would have to give us some more specifics for some advice on what you are doing right and doing wrong.

Your post reminds me of an episode of this really awesome show called "Louie" it's on FX and it stars Louie CK as a divorced father with two little girls. He is hanging out with the single mother of one of his daughter's friends and he starts talking about how he thinks he is a bad father and doesn't really know what he is doing. In response to this, the woman tells him: "You are a good father. Why? Because you show up. Just being here, in the room with them, makes you father of the year."

I loved that, and i think it probably applies here. If you are trying your hardest, working to keep your kids fed and sheltered, and making an effort spend time with them, you are doing your part. Being a single parent is too big of a challenge to be overly critical of yourself.
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posted on 07-06-2020 at 14:14 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
New single parent

I feel your pain, HazardsofLove, as it is the pain of parenthood.

Sorry to say, but being a single parent always brings out being overwhelmed. It won't end until the children grow to adult size and start taking on the responsibilities of their own lives.

Having said that, I also want to express that it is the effort you make that grows the child or children. They don't want perfection. They want effort. Because effort is the thing that you create to show them how much they matter in the scheme of life. If you were to be neglectful and not give a rats ass, they would know that you don't give a rats ass and they would evaluate themselves to be meaningless in your eyes,. But your effort tells them otherwise. You can do almost everything all f**cked up, but the effort is what will secure their evaluation of themselves as worth your effort. Kids don't need experts on child-rearing. They need human beings who go the distance on their behalves, perfect or not.
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posted on 07-21-2020 at 16:30 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
You have 2 kids and this is the first time you've cared for them?

What is wrong with this picture?

You say that you have 2 children...and this is the first time you've taken care of them? Let me guess, mommy and daddy took the children while you...what?...took happy pills to avoid stress?

No, to answer your question, you are not doing everything right for your kids. You brought them into this world and didn't take care of them. Now you are overwhelmed. What have you been doing all this time?

The lesson here is that adults should have children. You obviously have not been an adult. Maybe your kids can teach you how to be a parent.

Ridiculous, what has happened to this world? If I were you, I would just give the kids up for adoption to save them the pain of having you as a parent. It would be the decent thing to do.

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posted on 09-22-2020 at 16:33 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Never been single parent before

Dennehy you are not listening to the woman. She said she had never taken care of her children 'alone' before. I believe you are a divorced man who didn't listen to his wife, correct?

Let me guess, you think european women are better than women with their own opinions.

Idiot. Try listening next time.
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