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Author: drmeadowsny Subject: Children who don't want to visit
XO_stepdad
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Children who don't want to visit

I am wondering if anybody has information for divorced parents who have children that don't like to visit them. A friend of mine asked me for advice about this situation, but I was at a loss for words and could not think of any advice to give.

Anyone have any words of wisdom?
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posted on 05-11-2010 at 22:49 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
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Hey XO,
i think if the children dont want to visit anyone of the two parents that means they have developed anger in themselves. that should be dissolved in by they cummulative thinking of both the parents.
i mean both the parents should know and believe that the troubled relationship between them has nothing to do with the the kids.
they must have both mom and dad.
it is their right...!
they parents should encourage the kids to meet and normalize the relationship wih the other parent too.

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'Hey XO,
i think if the children dont want to visit anyone of the two parents that means they have developed anger in themselves. that should be dissolved in by they cummulative thinking of both the parents.
i mean both the parents should know and believe that the troubled relationship between them has nothing to do with the the kids.
they must have both mom and dad.
it is their right...!
they parents should encourage the kids to meet and normalize the relationship wih the other parent too.


Thanks for the insight, but I'm not sure if I would know what to tell someone if they were confronting this issue. You said that its a child's right to have both their fathe and their mother present in their life, which I agree with.

so is it better for children in this situation to spend time with both parents at the same time, or each on individually? Or some of both?
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Perhaps someone is saying terrible things about dad and that is why the children do not want to go to his home. He should go back to his lawyer and see what can be done about this. Go0d luck!
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This might be a problem to you as they are probably be misguided about you or they have developed kind of hatred towards you and might not want to talk to you.You should console them and make them feel that you are a good dad and care for them.Also you can get consultation about this from divorce lawyer Redondo Beach about what you can do for the best of your children and yours.Children get misguided easily and divorce make them feel betrayed by their parents but with time they will sure get normal to you.
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I think your kids have developed a strong feeling of hatred and anger towards you or it might be possible that they are not allowed to meet you.But it is not going to be long they will somehow come to meet you believe in god. You on your behalf should guide them and make them believe that you love and need them.They will understand that.You can consult divorce lawyer if you have some problem regarding this.Divorce lawyer Gardena are good at giving people good guidance and consultation regarding any divorce query.
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Child custody complications

After meeting for three times with there father who is violent abusive and drug addict my children decided not to go during visitation hours and so now I'm trying to file custody review petition in the court and challenge this abusive behaviour of my husband with the help of my custody lawyer Centreville, VA who helped me to win the legal battle for child custody.
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About visiting parents

The answer must depends on why he/she want so. Can you be more specific what the reason is.
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Children who don't want to visit custodial parents

In my experience, children who demonstrate negatively toward visitations of a custodial parent are typically experiencing negative issues brought on by the parents themselves.

One of the most pervasive issues for a child of divorced parents is having to deal with the bad feeling brought on by the desolved relationship. Children hear all the negative remarks, the anger, and are put in to a situation where they feel the need to choose a side. Once the side is chosen, the child cannot openly desire to visit the other parent without feeling disloyal to the first.

Divorce is often a terrible and destructive experience for children, which is why so many parents wait to divorce until the child is older and more capable of handling such issues.
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