Butterfly
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posted on 08-01-2008 at 09:52 |
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Newlywed sex. Need mans opinion
Hi~ I tried to post something in another topic and it didn't work....so, I'm trying it in this one...
My question is, I just got married to a very attractive ex player/giggilo. A player from what 'v been told by others anyhow. He claims he hardly slept with any. ? Who knows, anyways....
We met and fell in love a couple years ago, I tamed this independant man and we got married. The first 3 months of meeting, we did it everyday almost...then it slowly disapated. Wehardly do it anymore. Maybe once a week, if I ask/beg!! Most the time he says he's too tired?
I can't seem to figure it out why he isn't into me. he see's me more as a friend/wholesome/motherly companion, I feel.
I know he was once a pervert, b/c of his past of getting lots of girls. He used to go to strip clubs all the time even. (Our first date ended up there). But once we got married, it all stopped. He stopped going to those clubs (which is fine for me), but he also stopped flirting with me by grabbing/flirty stuff. All we do is cuddle now.
I know he loves me, b/c he just got a tatoo with my name on him. And if he's not working, he is always at home with me. He just don't like it when I initiate it. But if I don't we don't do it?
He has some old porns I found, so I jokingly asked to watch it with him. Even suggested buying a toy! He told me "gross"! What the???
Can't seem to figure out why this man witha player, perverted past treats his new wife in a "non sexual way". He don't even like when I talk dirty to him?
when we do make love, he does it "to get done". He's lost his fun? It can't be me, b/c I am still skinny, pretty and don't ever bitch at him...house is kept clean, etc.
I would love to do fun things in bed with him, but he has changed since we've been married/living together. I've besome embarrassed to even ask such things, b/c he'll roll his eyes at me. Makes me feel dirty.
I've been told by a friend that, since he married me he might now see me as wholesome, or motherly.
Everytime I bring up normal/kinky sex stuff, he thinks it's gross? Yet I know when he is with the guys, he likes to talk that way.
So, what the heck happened to this 'once a player, womenizing man'?? He fell in love, got married, now views sex with his wife as "work". Not even into pleasing me anymore. He is drinking beers alot less. When we did it alot, he was always drinking that night. Maybe that had something to do with it??
I can understand that some men are angels. But he is not that angel that he wants me to think. Little womanizing stories from his guy pals keep popping up from time to time. He denies them all! Says he just "cuddled or kissed" these girls...yeah, I'm not dumb. But I go with it. It's actually hot to me. I've tried to bring up his past...thinking that would intice things in bed for us. But he stills denies ever being that way?
When an ex- player gets married, does he view his wife differently? Any suggestions at this point would help. Thanks!!
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