Barbara
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posted on 05-27-2004 at 21:10 |
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Getting your confidence back...
My older brother has been divorced now for over a year now and he still hasn't had the confidence to go out on a date. He wants to find someone special to have a serious relationship with but everytime he approaches a woman, either at work or at a bar or a party he finds that old fashion values are no longer "in vogue" and that the women are downright rude and too self obsessed. Anyone know where he can find women who still value family. I'd love for him to find happiness again. Thanks.
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somatek
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posted on 09-06-2006 at 19:41 |
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It All Depends...
It depends on where he's meeting these women. The older we get, we find that some women who are single and around our age have either gone through some bad experiences in their past relationships, or they never have been in a meaningful relationship. It's often the case that "all the good ones are taken". Basically, your brother should go look for like-minded single women. Either in forums like this one, or single groups from reputable sources like a church. Also, he should seriously think of re-evaluating his idea of "traditional" values.
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AlexAppleton
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posted on 01-26-2009 at 03:23 |
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Russian Girls
He must change his idea about women because there are women who has still having family values....
Russian women | Russian brides
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ddraper
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posted on 02-20-2009 at 01:51 |
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Getting Confidence Back
Confidence is hard to win back after such an earth shattering event as a divorce. The thing is though, he obviously had the confidence when he entered into the marriage in the first place. If he can harness whatever energy he had going in, he should be fine.
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adrien53
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posted on 06-19-2009 at 02:54 |
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Old values
I fully know how your brother feels. I am also very into old values and look for a traditional relationship. I am also religious and you don't find a woman that also wants to live that way easily. But you have to think positive and never give up.
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new_slang
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posted on 01-04-2010 at 14:20 |
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Exploring opportunities
These are definitely some helpful tips. I have found that the best way to deal with the pain of a separation is to explore the new opportunities available to you. Even though the loss of a relationship can put a huge dent in your plans for the future, it can also open doors and allow you to explore new things you never had the time for.
Try out something you have always wanted to do: painting, writing, cycling. Exploring new interests is not only a great way to distract your mind, but also a fantastic way to meet new people. Although I wouldn't suggest rushing into a romantic relationship right after a divorce, it's healthy to meet new friends and get to know a new group of people.
It's easy to allow ourselves to get sucked into a dark pit of despair when horrible things happen to us. If we try to focus on the opportunities instead of the problems, we can often avoid negative thoughts and depression.
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Link_29
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posted on 01-12-2010 at 16:57 |
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MUSIC
Everyone likes music...why not learn how to play your favorite instrument?
That's what i did when i was in a funk, and now i can play all kinds of songs and have a new skill. You can get involved in your music community and meet some new people too its a great social tool not to mention the stress-relief i get from playing
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helterskelter
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posted on 06-24-2010 at 06:51 |
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He Needs More Time...
I honestly think that his refusal to engage with women has nothing to do with confidence. What you probably need him to do is give him time. Although it may seem that a year is too long for him to not get hooked up with single women, it may be because he's still scarred by his previous marriage and is too doubtful in trusting and investing his feeling to a member of the opposite sex. In any case your brother needs some help through this problem, support him and research materials or books for him to read in order for him to understand his situation. An article about dating after divorce is a good start.
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